Millennial Dating – a Young Woman’s Guide

I follow, the blog of a young, warm, talented woman who lives in NYC.  Sometimes, her ideas are so good, I must borrow them.  Her latest article is, “DATING ETIQUETTE FOR THE SOCIAL MEDIA OBSESSED, Posted on January 11, 2018

She recently reentered the dating game, after a long respite.  A recent date opened her eyes to what everyone else has known for the last few years: “Romance is a dying art,” because of social media

Why are Millennials waiting longer before marriage and children?  How about “smart phones, Snapchat and communicating through emojis?”

She found out that “dating is, frankly, limping along like a squirrel run over by a semi.”

She has resigned herself to the adage, “you’ve gotta date to find out what you don’t want in a partner.”

Guys, Here Are Eight Mistakes to Avoid on Dates. DO NOT:

    1. Confirm the date and time, but fail to give the specific details until 25 minutes before.
    2. Let her get there on her own. Do not pick her up or call her an Uber, even if it is raining.
    3. Fail to mention how nice she looks, even when every man in the bar notices.
    4. Keep your eyes on ESPN; yell at the TV, like you do with your men friends.
    5. Keep your phone in your hand all night. Every few minutes, while you are waiting for a reply, tell her she is not second to your technology.
    6. Tell your date how excited you are to hang out with her.  Look up to make eye contact.  Then get back to your phone.
    7. During dinner, tell her how much you have in common.  But do not lose contact with your friends: text, Snapchat, Instagram, and Tweet, under the table.
    8. After three dates, “ghost” to spare her feelings. Farewells are awkward.

Ladies, Here Are Ten Tips for Improving Your Dating Experiences

First, let me admit how little men know about women. We are so used to male company, with all its crass, corny, loud, bad jokes, that we have not had any practice being kind and considerate. Most of the time we are more confused than dishonest. Out of habit, we PRETEND we know, especially when we do not. (Men do this with other men ALL the time.)  This applies to every aspect of dating, love, and marriage.

Men are slower than women to mature emotionally. You will notice this when he boorishly banters with his friends, even when you are right there with him. (BTW:  The male form of giggling is a loud laugh and a slap on the back, high-five, or fist bump.)  This immaturity tends to lessen as men grow up.

Well, not all the time.  They say that wisdom comes with age; but I say, sometimes, age comes alone. Anyway, here is my list:

      1. Date at least a decade older.  (You will both feel smarter.)
      2. Look for someone who needs help with his cellphone.
      3. Make some ground rules for the time you are together and after.  (Yes; yes; no; not so much; maybe; I don’t think so.)
      4. Do for him what you want from him.  (e.g. both phones off, in your purse.)
      5. Before you agree on a date, ask him how he sees the evening going.
      6. Get clarification on anything “fuzzy.” Like,”where in Central Park?”
      7. Add whatever you feel would make it better for you both.  (e.g. “can we skip the mimes and statue people this time?”)
      8. Acknowledge him for each mannerly, gentlemanly, considerate thing he does.  (e.g.  “I just love it when I do not have to hail a cab.”)
      9. Be ready to say, with a smile, “ah, ah, ah, ah, that is what I meant when we agreed to (remind him of ground rule.) let us get back on track.” or whatever and however you want to coach him.
      10. Make allowances for his “empty box.”

You should be aware of something fundamental about men that some women never find out.  When they hear of it, they are shocked, perplexed, they find it impossible, yet it pervades the male psyche.

Women have mental “boxes” of things they think about. They jump from one box to the next without ever once stopping, announcing, or explaining what just happened. Women call it “multitasking.”  Men call it “What????”

Men have something women do not: an EMPTY box. That is right, when you ask him what he is thinking, and he says “nothing,” he honestly means it. He is not trying to dodge your question, he just went where men go when fishing, to the empty box in his brain.

Women cannot conceive of such a thing.  But it is the truth.  So, accept it, and make allowances for it – do not badger him out of disbelief.

Now you know that men are as mysterious as women in some ways.  That is it. Good luck, you are a fabulous catch for some lucky man.


President Obama OK’s Health Insurance Discrimination

Did your company drop your health insurance?  Wait until you find out the rest of the story.

Investigators in the Department of Labor were shocked to find that President Obama gave employers a year to pick and choose who gets health insurance.

That’s right; the seemingly innocuous exemption of employers from the Affordable Care Act has given businesses with thousands of employees “Carte Blanc” to ignore decades of legislative efforts to protect employees from benefit discrimination.

For the year 2014 employers may provide health insurance to top management and deny health insurance to the rank and file.

Yes, last week officials at the Department of Labor confirmed that President Obama gave the green light to big businesses; they can drop health insurance for any employees they choose not to cover.

The Department of Labor reported that a business, employing thousands of workers, is within the law to keep health insurance benefits for management and cancel coverage for the rest of the employees.

The one-year exemption from the “Affordable Care Act” lets businesses cut anyone they want from their group health insurance benefits.

Department of Labor enforcement agents were embarrassed to admit that they were powerless to stop businesses, with thousands of employees, from dropping health insurance for most of their employees while keeping coverage for selected management and administrative staff.

After pursuing several complaints, a DOL investigator declared, “The whole department was shocked and dismayed to find that this exemption allows employers to undo decades of anti-discrimination efforts.”

If you are one of the myriad employees who are left with no health insurance, look again at the government and laws you counted on to protect your rights.  Nothing you were promised is true.